A. Preliminary Questions
After analyzing the gallup pole, the action that I decided to analyze was having a baby outside of marriage. This action is relevant in my life because one of the members of my family has done this, and so has caused various issues to arise within my family. This action cannot be said to be right or wrong because there are always two extremes when analyzing this. Some believe that this action is wrong because it may not be beneficial for the child to have parents who are not certain of their relationship. This may cause various problems for the child at a young age especially when growing up if the parents aren’t together. On the other hand, some believe that this may be right to a certain extent especially if the culture of the people involved is alright with it. Because of this the cultural background of a person will always affect choice of deciding whether it is right or wrong. In my opinion, I believe that this action is wrong, simply based on the action. However, despite the action being wrong, positive effects could stem from it. When my family found out about what had happened, we all thought that it was wrong. That a person should not have a baby especially since she is not married. Despite this, after the baby was born, we found ourselves becoming closer as a family and caring for her even more.
I believe that this action is wrong, however, at certain situations, this may not be bad nor sinful. An example of this is if the person was forced or coerced into it. A woman that might have been forced into having intercourse and ended getting pregnant is not at fault since she had no choice. As the Church states, it is sinful to commit abortion. Human life is very valuable and so even if a person is not married, having a baby cannot be said to be completely bad. It is better to save a life and decide to nurture it rather than to kill and destroy a child’s life before he or she has even gotten the chance to mature. Because of this notion, having a baby despite not being married then becomes the lesser sin or not a sin at all because the parent/s decided to go through with giving birth to the child instead of aborting the baby, which is a very heavy sin.
Based on my answer, I think that I am a rationalist because I do believe that there is right and wrong. Evaluating the person’s situation is important in determining whether it is bad or simple, but looking at the act alone, it is wrong for me. A rationalist takes time to analyze the different aspects of an issue and evaluate that there may be a better choice. I cannot say that the action is right nor neutral, and so I lean more towards it being wrong.
B. What If…?
Hey (insert friend’s name here)! I know that you are confused and wondering if the action is right or wrong. If you are unsure of your choice then you should remain cautious and assume that the action is wrong. The act of having sex may be pleasurable, however, if you get pregnant, there may be negative effects not only to you, but to those around such as your friends and family. You need to rethink why you want to experience having sex, which could get you pregnant before getting married. For my opinion, I believe that it is better for you to wait until you get married because right now, we are not certain what effects will happen if you do decide to go through with it. You may end up getting pregnant and having a hard time, which I do not want to see happening to you, and so I think it is better to be safe and avoid doing this.